What Is Secret Santa? - Secret Santa Rules and How to Play
Last Edited: November 8th, 2024
Written By: Sam Watanuki
Ready to learn all about Secret Santa? In this article, we take a look at the Secret Santa rules so you can have a successful and fun gift exchange experience with your crew! You might know it as a Yankee Swap or a White Elephant, but around the world, from office conference rooms to holiday house parties, gift exchange games have become a not-to-be-missed tradition amongst friends, families, and coworkers.
But there's really only one king of the Christmas gift exchange: Secret Santa. It's the game that keeps alive the mystery, suspense, and surprise of holiday gifting, turning average Joes into sneaky elves.
In this article, we take a look at the Secret Santa rules so you can have a successful and fun gift exchange experience with your crew!
So what is Secret Santa, you ask?
Secret Santa is a Christmas gift-giving tradition. Members of a group of friends, family, or coworkers draw names at random to become someone's Secret Santa. The Secret Santa is given a Wishlist of gift ideas to choose from to give to their chosen giftee. After opening their present, the giftee has to guess which member of the group was their Secret Santa. It's a holiday classic where the guessing is as much a part of the fun as receiving the gift.
While everyone seems to have some of their own rules when it comes to Secret Santa, the idea can be traced back to the Scandinavian tradition of knocking on someone’s door, throwing a present inside when it opens, then running away. They call this Juklapp, or “knocking Christmas.” Or, roots may trace back even further to German legends about St. Nick’s helpers, who doled out presents to good kids, but not to the bad, but one thing is for certain. The tradition continues to evolve over the years.
Online Secret Santa games now offer a modern twist on a classic, letting anyone secretly gift it up from anywhere around the world. It's an update on a beloved game that expands the idea of who a Secret Santa can be: anyone from your neighbor down the street to a remote coworker on the other side of the world. But whether you're playing a traditional Secret Santa exchange or an online one, there are rules to ensure mystery, merriment, and a little elvish magic.
How to Play Secret Santa: Traditional Game Rules
Traditional Secret Santa rules, in essence, are pretty simple: no one knows who is getting whom a gift. But organizing a gift exchange with your friends, family, or coworkers can be a bit more complicated. Here are the steps for hosting a traditional Secret Santa game in-person:
- Write down each name on a piece of paper. Gather all the participants up and have them scribble their names on a piece of paper. Encourage legibility, otherwise you'll have people buying gifts for “does that say...Floger? Smoged?” If it's hard to get them all in the same room, you can do this yourself after each person agrees by text or email to go full elf.
- Have everyone write down a gift suggestion or two. Players can write down something specific like thick red knee-high socks, or something pretty vague like “a book, please.” The more specific the better, though, to ensure everyone gets something they actually want.
- Draw names to randomly assign a Secret Santa to each player. This is the fun part; reach into the hat and find out whose Christmas you’ll be making better! The host can also do this solo and email, call, or text the other players their assigned name — just make sure you keep things straight with a top-secret list of who’s assigned to whom. Not even Rudolph can help you if you lose the master list!
- Plan a gift exchange party. Pick a day when everyone can get together, preferably before people leave for their Christmas vacations. Make sure each gift is tagged with the recipient’s name, but not the gifter’s! Exchange gifts, goodies, and holiday cheer to last all year.
- Guess who drew your name. Guessing who your sneaky Secret Santa is, and revealing your own elfy nature to the person you gifted a present to, is the reindeer’s knees. Who got you the book for your next book club meeting? Who knows how much you’ve been craving chocolate? Was it Allison? No? Then it must be...Allison? Wait, did I already guess that?
All that is fun of course. But what if you want an easier way to handle a big group, to make sure Sally doesn’t get picked twice while Steve gets left out in the snow? Or maybe you want to be able to expand your group from the North to the South Pole. No reason to doubt the magic of the elves! Santa’s gone digital with an online version of the gifting favorite.
How to Play Secret Santa Online: The Modern, Updated Rules
Say you want to set up a Secret Santa game for friends around the country — or even the world. Maybe it’s to bring together all of your distant relatives, or the Game of Thrones forum group you run. Any community of people, from anywhere on the planet, can join together for a Secret Santa extravaganza. Here are the rules for getting your online gift exchange started:
- Invite the other elves, er, players. Set up an online Secret Santa gift exchange with Elfster, then email an invitation to everyone in your group who might want to get their elf on.
- Randomize the name selection. This digital Secret Santa Generator tool randomly sends out assignments and wish lists, keeping track of a master list of paired-up participants for the host, no pom-pom’ed hat required.
- Create comprehensive Wishlists. Participants can create an Elfster Wishlist any time using https://www.elfster.com/shop/, including Amazon, Etsy, Bombas, lululemon, and more! Just set a spending limit and let them wish to their hearts’ content. Wishlists take the guesswork out of giving, making it a more relaxed and stress-free shopping experience.
- Exchange gifts. Wrap your gifts and send them on. Or, make it even easier by selecting items from their Wishlist and having the gifts shipped directly, so all you have to do is set a delivery date.
- Host a global party. Set up a video chat party to open your gifts and reveal your Secret Santa identities; geography is no longer a limitation.
- Guess who drew your name. Well, you can’t update a classic. The guessing can be the same, or, if you want, names can be written on the cards that get delivered with the gifts.
Looking to try Secret Santa with a twist? Try out different variations of the Christmas gift exchange game, like Yankee Swap, Dirty Santa, or The Grinch Gift Exchange.
Secret gift exchanges aren’t just for Christmas, either! You can host an online Secret Santa any time of the year, for any occasion. Maybe several of your friends are all turning 40 — have one big combo party! People can exchange gifts on President’s Day, or for the end of the school year. No matter the occasion, or even if you just want to make up your own holiday, gift exchanges are always better with a sprinkle of surprise and a dash of the unknown. And there's no shortage of making the Secret Santa more fun for your group. Get creative!
It’s no secret why we love Secret Santa gift exchanges. Now that you know the Secret Santa rules and how to play, are you ready to gather up Christmas lists and start one of your own?
Elfster’s online Secret Santa Wishlists, gift guides, and digital exchanges make spreading Christmas cheer easy to do all year! Get started with our Secret Santa Generator and sign up for free today to get into the elfing spirit — pointy ears optional.
